- When you are sightseeing and come across a public restroom, use it. You never know when you will get another chance.
- When departing in an airplane, play “Love like a sunset, Part I” by Phoenix when your plane begins to taxi down the runway. That song always seems to mimic the momentum of taking off, and if it syncs up with lift-off, it feels like magic.
- Bring currency with you for tipping, even if they accept credit cards.
- If you’re not fluent in the native language, be ready with guides and translation apps, even you know some of language and the citizens generally know English. It’s just polite to not assume anything, and you’ll learn more.
- Take a nap if you feel like you need it. (Unless you are jet lagged, then see next point.)
- Never nap when adjusting to a new time zone. I know you are so sleepy but you WILL REGRET IT. Look alive and push through. You can do it!
- Only carry what you need. Only copies of Important documents should be on you, plus the cash or cards you need. It’s safer and traveling lighter feels better.
- Just check the bag. Fighting for overhead space is the gladiatorial fight of our modern age.
- Don’t overplan. You might be more tired on some days, discover an unexpected place you want to visit, or get a last minute recommendation from one of your Insta-followers. Have some flex time.
- Always take photos.
Some photos from my trip to the Northwest (Oregon & Vancouver, Canada) in September 2017:
Delicious breakfast in Vancouver.
Public Market in Vancouver.
Famous burger at Stanich’s in Portland, Oregon.
View of Vancouver from the bike trail.
Totems in the park in Vancouver
Vanilla Jill’s Ice Cream Shop in Eugene, Oregon.
Breakfast Biscuit at Pine State Biscuits in Portland, Oregon.
Canada sign in Vancouver/
Inside the Public Market in Vancouver.
View of the bridge from the bike trail in Vancouver.
Japanese Gardens in Portland, Oregon.
View from a hill in Eugene, Oregon.
Trees in a park in Eugene, Oregon.
Biking in Vancouver.
Sunset view from my hotel in Vancouver.
And from my Bestie trip to Connecticut in October 2017:
Lauren Graham FaceTiming the crowd at the Gilmore Girls Festival.
Me and my best friend in Connecticut.
Mark Twain’s real house in Hartford, Connecticut.
Mark Twain’s house made of Legos.
Kent, Connecticut Town Hall.
Me, in a giant chair at Club Getaway in Kent. CT.
A very attractive statue of Nathaniel Hale in Hartford Connecticut.
A delicious burger I had on my birthday.
As a 35-year-old woman, these are the categories of clothing I am asked to choose from:
- You can wear this to your office job, but it might be weird to wear this in any other scenario.
- Do you want to feel comfortable more than you want to look like you spent three hours getting ready? Oh, you do? Skip these outfits.
- “Individual style” & “personality” are overrated. We know what you need: Beige.
- Everything here is made from the finest scratchy, translucent, non-breathable fabrics science could create.
- You aren’t old yet! Let these odd shapes, clingy fabrics, and confusing patterns remind you every day.
- You aren’t young anymore! Let these odd shapes, billowy fabrics, and confusing patterns remind you every day.
- These are the hottest trends. You might feel weird about showing off that one section of your shoulder, but you’ll look so cool!
- Remember, you don’t want to look too young. But you also don’t want to look too old. You want your coworkers & friends to compliment your outfits, but you don’t want to seem like you care a lot about your looks. You want to put effort into your style, but no one should be able to tell. But also who cares? You do you! …as long as it can’t offend anyone else or draw too much attention. It’s easy!
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- Tried a gluten-free breakfast sandwich because they were out of everything else. It… wasn’t the best.
- Tried to take Austin Kleon‘s very good advice about staying informed without burning yourself out on news before your day begins – You can be woke without waking up to the news. I lasted 20 minutes. Which is something. I’ll try again tomorrow!
- Saw two dogs on campus that looked like the big and little versions of each other. (I couldn’t snap a photo because they were playing too much.)
Hm, what else? Oh yeah…
- Woke up to millions of Americans still having their healthcare. Woo!
I don’t suddenly feel less anxious about the overall state of the government, but today it seems a little easier to focus on the people who are doing good. Like ADAPT and the many women in our government who somehow find a way to keep fighting in the face of all this, like Patty Murray, Kamala Harris, & Maxine Waters.
And last night, Mazie Hirono showed enormous courage:
We have a long road ahead, but just being able to even mention a few positive, encouraging people and news headlines today feels really good.
It’s a new week. And I’m still here.
- Yesterday morning I missed a crucial left turn driving to work, so I had to drive about 10 minutes out of my way to turn around. I’ve never missed that turn.
- My eyes have been sort of twitching on and off for over a week now. At first I thought it was something with my contacts, but then I stopped wearing my contacts…
- I’ve been going to bed about an hour later and waking up about 30-45 minutes earlier every day for the past couple of weeks.
- Lately, I feel perpetually behind on tasks and over-booked for activities. Nothing feels easy.
- I forgot my office keys at home today too. I’ve never forgotten my office keys.
It’s a new week. And I want to be here.
- Despite feeling exhausted, I’ve been setting time aside each day to draw, read, or work on a project I enjoy.
- I’ve also been making time to just sit and watch something that makes me laugh, like Tiffany Haddish telling a story, or 30 Rock episodes on Netflix.
- I’ve also been making time daily for 10 minutes of mindful meditation. Overall, this is beneficial, but specifically it helps me check-in with my brain & make sure I’m not telling myself too many negative stories.
- Yoga with Adriene – 7 minute stress relief, remains essential to my weeks.
- I decided to start therapy again to work on myself more. I realized last week that I have told three people this month about how much therapy has helped me manage my anxiety, so I’m going to take my own advice, and reach out for another source of help. We’re not alone.
The summer of 2016, I only saw three movies in the theater from May until September. This is unusual for me, since I love movies and enjoy most genres. But nothing really excited me. I saw Captain America: Civil War, Ghostbusters, and The Nice Guys. I enjoyed all three, but my favorite experience, by far, was Ghostbusters.
Watching four women save the world from ghosts was not only super fun, but it felt exciting in a way that was… specifically for me. I had goosebumps. It was honestly a little overwhelming. I went through a cycle of emotions after that– I was happy a big summer movie featuring women heroes existed, but I was also really irritated that so many movies still did not include women, POCs, and other perspectives in their stories. But maybe one day this wouldn’t feel so new and it would be normal to see everyone represented in wide-release summer movies?
[Cut to summer 2017]
This summer, the cinema has upped its game. Can we please talk about Wonder Woman?! I saw it opening night with my partner, and then gave it my money a second time with my best friend. (We both loved this movie in that specific Ghostbusters way.)
So hey, Hollywood– Now that I know what it feels like to watch movies that represent other experiences, I would like to see that all the time. It’s incredible. (And also you will make a lot of money, I promise.)
Recommendation: Go see Black Panther when it comes out because it looks fantastic!
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