Resolutions can be a trap. If we don’t fulfill them, we have failed. There’s pressure and, often, also the unrealistic expectations of someone else’s Instagram feed. So, no thanks. I do think setting goals is a good thing but as far as stepping into 2019, I decided to try something new with my goals– “anti-resolutions” maybe. Some things I’m trying to do less of:
- Being impressed by how young a famous person looks. It’s probably a big part of their life and career to keep up those looks. And they probably spend a lot of money on it too. Should we be applauding all that pressure (especially on women) and fixation on youth? Probably not.
- Judging myself for not reading as many books as I want to read. Starting and stopping a book you’re not that into is fine. Only having a short time to read is fine. Just keep reading.
- Not speaking up in the moment. Being afraid of being judged or making people uncomfortable is human, but calling people on their bullshit is what preserves humanity. This is a muscle I need to exercise.
- Feeling obligated to do anything ever. This has never served me well and it’s astonishing how much of life can be dictated by this feeling. I must refuse to give up my power of choice when I have it.
- Placing any value on being thinner or weighing less. This one is hard because (huge societal issue aside) I can’t remember ever not being aware of my size in comparison to others, in photos, while clothes shopping, or when talking with other women about diet/exercise. The goal should be educating myself on my own health, feeling as healthy as I can day-to-day, and accepting that will change.
- Getting distracted online super easily. It took me way too long to finish this post.
- Not sharing my writing because it’s not prefect.
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Last week, a few unexpected things popped up that felt urgent and important (as things do) and sort of derailed an otherwise steady week. Things I originally had planned for the week:
- Clothes shopping (again) because I really need to get some clothing that fits (see last year’s weight gain) and also I clean out my closet for donations like every other month but oops, forgot to get new stuff.
- Do a big spring clean of the house.
- Look into a list of fun things to do while family is visiting.
- Order some small rugs for around the house.
- Grocery store run + meal prep.
- Set up some new pages in my Bullet Journal.
- Stop avoiding shopping, obviously.
Of those things, I accomplished 0 items.
It happens. Or, doesn’t happen, as it were. I woke up toward the end of the week feeling very behind and out of sorts and wondering if I was capable of life at all, and then came across a Yoga with Adriene video that I felt was pretty timely:
Trying to stick with yoga (mostly) every day this year has really been like waking up to a supportive friend (who is also a stranger in a video) when I need it most. That (plus coffee) always gets me back on my feet. Onward we go…
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I always think of this quote from Angela Chase (My So-Called Life) on Sunday nights:
There’s something about Sunday night that really makes you want to kill yourself.
(Yikes. Maybe I shouldn’t think about this quote at all, but I was thirteen when My So-Called Life aired, so I was powerless against it imprinting on me forever.)
There is more than a little teenage angst infused into that statement, but Sunday is also universally agreed-upon as one of the worst days of the week. Businesses open late and close early, you can’t buy certain things in some states and, after 6pm, it’s basically very early Monday morning.
But then I also think you just need to be prepared for the week. Take it easy these last few hours. Do some prep but make sure you have realistic expectations for your week and, more importantly, something, big or small, to look forward to. If you don’t ever have to go to a high school class ever again, bonus! Sunday is looking up.
I’m currently taking some time to relax tonight after getting a few things done– some writing, reading, and shopping, Now, I’m watching The West Wing on Netflix.
Have a great week, everyone.
PS: Sarah and I recorded a new episode of Hey, Bestie! today too. We got real about some life things and caught up with each other on 2018 goals and things we’ve been up to. Coming soon…
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